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Meditation is not what you think…
Picture a room filled with zen vibes and people laying still on their mats. A dull whisper of wind chimes lulling through the air. The bubbling water feature giving just enough connection to nature. Everyone is silent and still. It’s picturesque.
And it’s sorta full of crap!
Say what?! That’s crazy coming from someone like me, who meditates daily and teaches others how, right?! But here’s why…we are NEVER FULLY STILL!
We aren’t supposed to be. We are energetic beings and even when our bodies are still, our mind is meant to MOVE. In this chat, I wanna share with you why meditation is not what you think, and how you can stop trying to make it this picture perfect moment in your life. Sound good?
To start, I wanna share my take on what meditation actually IS. It’s a state of consciousness. So you’re not asleep, you’re awake, but it’s almost like when you daydream. You know how you can drift off?! That’s meditation guys. Of course there’s way more to it, but keep that in mind as you read this. Because EVERYONE can meditate! Even someone with ADD! Even someone who’s mind never stops! Even someone who likes to be busy and going 103 miles an hour! Everyone can connect to that level of consciousness!
The first hurdle people often feel they aren’t able to jump is QUIETING the mind. That’s the biggest objection I hear when it comes to meditation. They ask, “how can I get my mind to stop.”
Answer: YOU DON’T!
Again, we aren’t meant to be totally still. Our mind will always be filled with stuff. The running to-do list. The things we need to accomplish. The worries, the doubts, the fears. Those things never fully go away. What happens is that your inner voice just gets louder.
When you begin a meditation practice, I highly suggest using guided meditations. We have a bunch of free ones on our website! Go use em! They really help you stop listening to the internal chatter and gives you something simple and peace filled to focus on. The more you show up for yourself in meditation, the more you get from it.
And this is a HUGE step before settling into a meditation: ask for only the highest and best to come into your mind. It’s self protection and helps you stay grounded during the process. Because here’s what’s SO COOL…you will start to have things pop up in your head. Maybe it’s an idea or something you feel like you have to do, maybe you see something in your minds eye. Maybe you see an animal or a color or hear a song. All of those things can be thought of as random thoughts just scattered in your brain, but really they are your divine messages! And to be sure they are filled with light and love, you gotta ask for that! Make sense?!
So going back to making that inner voice get louder…that’s the goal with meditation. It’s not to make your mind silent, it’s to connect to the space where you can get the message you need in that moment. Your list of things to do will be there. Your wondering if you left money in your pants pocket will be there. Your stomach growling will be there. Your need to pee will be there. BUT SO WILL YOUR INNER VOICE and that’s what you’re gonna learn to give the power to!
When you start to feel your brain go in a gazillion different directions, just honor it and ask for your space of peace to be amplified so you can hear what matters most!
Do you smell what I’m stepping in? Meditation is not silence. It’s just a different way to connect to your heart and soul, not just your brain!
Ok, so maybe laying down and listening to a guided meditation even seems like too much to start. Did you know you can have meditative moments while you’re up and about?
When you’re driving, does your mind ever wander? While you’re in the shower with the water running, do you go somewhere else in your mind? As you’re running or walking, what are your thoughts like? While your listening to music, playing an instrument, painting, cleaning, walking the dog. Any and all of these are opportunities to connect to your higher self, your inner voice!
It happens to me all the time when I’m washing the dishes! I still hand wash my dishes even though I have a dishwasher. There’s something about the water running and doing something sort of mindless that helps me become more mindful! I even created a meditation space at my sink window without even realizing it! I put all my little Buddha figurines, my crystals and a white candle all on the window sill! I didn’t even do it on purpose but it’s perfect! It’s where I get many of my best messages!
Is this all jiving with you guys? I was always so intimidated to meditate because I was afraid I was doing it wrong. There’s no right way or wrong way to connect. It’s just gotta be YOUR way, and the only place to figure that out is within YOU! No one ever said it to me quite like that, so I knew I had to share all of this with you so you can see, and most importantly BELIEVE, that you can do this for yourself!
Final piece which may blow your damn mind…have you ever been in the middle of a struggle and your play it out in your mind, and then create this whole entire made-up ordeal in your head that actually generates real emotion inside of you?! Like this shit storm you just made up out of thin air feels real?!
Well, if you can do that with the negative, you surely can do it with the positive! Allow yourself to daydream and visualize amazing things happening in your life. Let yourself feel the emotions of joy and love. Doing more of that will make it so much easier to hear that inner voice. When you give your power to positivity, you live more positively! Nuff said.
Meditation is not what you think, so instead of getting out of your head, get all up in there…and then ask for your HEART to do the talkin!
So much love for you guys! If you need help with this, you know where to find me! And if you’re around this weekend, join us at our Thriving or Surviving workshop Friday night, our Anniversary Celebration on Saturday, and meditation class Sunday night! All the gooooooood vibes!
You wake up in the morning. Get out of bed, ready for the day. Stretch. Smile. And then you stub your toe. Ughhhhhh.
You hobble to the bathroom to get in the shower and realize there aren’t any towels in the linen closet. You grab a hand towel and hope for the best.
In the shower, you’re regrouping and giving yourself a clean start -haha LITERALLY- and as you’re washing your hair, the shampoo seeps right into your eye. It hurts like a mofo. Then you think about how bad you feel when your kids have this happen and you tell them to get over it.
You hop out of the shower, dry yourself off with the hand towel and head to the kitchen. Coffee. Coffee will solve everything.
You pour a cup and it proceeds to pour all over the counter. So there you are, still damp from your tiny towel, furiously cleaning up coffee just mustering the strength to stay in a good place.
And then it happens…the words every human has muttered…”this is already the worst day, I’m so over it!”
Boom. The series of events that then set the tone for the rest of the day. The unfortunate happenings become our EXPECTATION for what’s to come. They become the FOCUS, so even if good things were to happen as the day continues, you would be so in tune to only the shit storm that carried on all from stubbing your toe!
Listen peeps, we are human! We are here to experience pain and frustration and annoyances. It’s part of the deal. But here’s the kicker, we are actually here to experience JOY in its purest forms and in order to do that, we have to learn to navigate the crap shoot moments! It’s that balance you hear everyone talking about.
I wanna share with you a few ways to help you focus less on the annoyances and more on the joy, and throw in a few tips on how to navigate the moments when you want to throat punch someone or lock yourself in the room with some noise cancelling headphones! Sound good?!
Ok…you may have heard us say over and over that “your thoughts create your reality” and that is 100% truth! You might be saying to yourself, I didn’t ASK to have an awful morning that led to an awful day. I didn’t manifest stubbing my toe or making a mess. And you’re right, you don’t create exact scenarios all the time…but somewhere in your thoughts lie CHAOS, NEGATIVITY, DOUBT or WORRY. Those thoughts are the ones that create crazy mornings like the one I shared above!
How many times have you said any of the following statements:
-I am not lucky enough.
-Things are just harder for me.
-It could be worse.
-I could never do that.
-It’s always something.
-Man I just can’t catch a break.
-What’s next on the shit list.
-When it rains, it pours.
Is your hand raised? Don’t lie, even my hand is raised, which is actually tricky when you’re trying to type!
We have all said statements like that and the sad part is, we BELIEVE THEM!!! We let them in and give them power. We allow those negative statements to define us! Mostly because we just don’t know that there’s a better way.
Guys. There’s a better way!
Just writing out those statements literally made me cringe inside because I used to say ALL of them, and my mindset was a hot mess!!! This shift doesn’t happen over night, but it can be as simple as changing the station on the radio. So here’s your first tip…catch yourself when you’re saying something like that!
The second that thought comes into your mind or comes out of your mouth, catch yourself! Acknowledge it! Remember what that thought is going to bring into your life. Statements and thoughts like that are never going to bring anything good into your life! Never.
Negativity will never create positivity. It just won’t! The only thing that creates positivity is positivity. They are 2 different radio stations guys. Which one are you dialing into?!
So when the thought comes pouncing it, because it will (they still pounce in on me) just take a sec and CHANGE THE STATION!
Here’s some statements you can use to counteract the ones from above:
-I am lucky and blessed.
-Things always workout for the best for me.
-Things come easy for me.
-I am surrounded and supported by love.
-Something amazing is happening today.
-I believe in miracles.
Here the thing guys…you might feel like total BS saying these at first, because you’re so hard wired to the REALITY of those negative thoughts! But that’s the thing…they are THOUGHTS, and no matter what you’re going through right now, those POSITIVE statements can be used and can become your TRUTH!!!
And like I mentioned before, this shift doesn’t happen overnight and it doesn’t mean that frustrations and annoyances will never happen if you think positive. Again, it’s all part of the package here being a human. What this shift does is helps you react differently to the annoyances. It helps you see the things that once would have thrown you over the edge as petty moments!
Once you learn to change the channel, you also learn where to place your personal power!! And that’s EVERYTHING!!
I still have chaotic moments and cluster F’s of days…what’s different is that I laugh at them now! I know there’s a lesson I need to learn or a realization I need to make. If chaos is a comin, I know my mind needs a reboot! If the hot mess express is going off the tracks, I know I need to get my mind right!
It’s so much easier to blame LIFE for our crappy circumstances, but it’s 100% on US! That’s a tough pill to swallow, but also the GREATEST GIFT EVER, because it shows you that’s YOU CAN CHANGE IT!!
We are not victims of our circumstances! We are just humans hard wired for survival instead of joy…so we need to retrain the way we think to change the way we live. Whew. That’s a biggie but are you starting to get it?!
Whatever you’re going through right now in this moment, you have the power to shift it! You have the power to navigate it in a new way. You have the ability to create a different outcome! One filled with more JOY!
I could go on and on for like ever about this, but I’m gonna wrap it here and will always circle back to mindset. It’s been a life changing experience being a person to transition from a negative mentality to a positive one, and it’s a huge part of the reason I’ve embraced this as a career. If I can make this shift, YOU CAN, too! Always here to help you find your WAE 😘😘
Shameless plug: if you’re ready to dig deeper into your mental growth, our Shift Release Connect Class on Sunday 9/15 is a perfect place to begin! Or join us at our mindset workshops Free Your Mind on 9/11 and Surviving to Thriving on 9/20! Can’t make those, book a private reiki sesh or jump into one of our awesome workouts (scheduled daily) to take a few moments for YOU!! Mindset work is a practice…the more you show up to it, the more it shows up for you!❤️❤️🙌🏻
Let me start this by saying you guys are seriously amazing with all your love and support! We haven’t yet heard back from The Big Find to see what the future holds, but sharing all the deets of this journey is such a blast…so here goes. I think we left off with getting the email that we were selected as finalists…
Seeing my moms face on the phone when I told her we were selected was totally priceless!!! It was such a huge moment of validation. Because let’s be real, we could all be called crazy for quitting our day jobs to go make headbands🤣🤣 but we always knew deep down it was more than that. All of you get that, too! That’s why you’re reading this and why you’re a part of our tribe! Insert giant virtual hug to you!
We celebrated and laughed, she called my sister who was away on vaca to fill her in and I went back to the email to read the deets again. It was a whirlwind of emotion so I wanted to make sure I got this right.
Upon reading, it said only 2 people could attend the in person presentation. Hmmmm. We’re a team of 3 here, folks. I was so bummed we couldn’t all share in this incredible experience together! I contemplated just going on my own, and then my mom insisted that Kate and I go and share the WAE love. You know, the whole “let the birds fly the nest” kind of feel! Done.
But not quite. We had to then select what city we would visit to have our meeting. New York. Philly. Seattle. And one other one I can’t remember because it was far away. I clicked New York. Closest in location, easiest to get to, and who doesn’t love a little trip to the Big Apple?! Done.
Ummmm hold up. The meeting date: August 14. Smack dab in the middle of our family vacation down the cape. All good. We decided to be grown up business women and just take a little day trip for a meeting. Done.
Everything was falling into place, and the excitement was huge. But then you know how it goes guys…excitement can feel like anxiety. Which can lead to doubt. And feel like pressure. It’s amazing how quickly those snarky feelings can try to swoop in and steal the joy of the moment. So every time I felt it, I reminded myself that they saw something special in the WAEband. Just like US! Just like YOU!
I reminded myself that when I filled out that application, I kept it totally real! And it felt so aligned to share how we make these bands in my parents garage and how we take the time to name each one and give it a meaning for our peeps to feel divinely connected! Every time I shifted my energy, it felt exciting! Lesson: anxiety is just a feeling that you have the power to shift! It doesn’t define you.
I didn’t take crazy amounts of time planning a presentation with power points or fancy charts showing our sales and demographics. I knew we just needed to share that the WAEband is a product that was born in a moment. The moment my mom decided to tie a tank top on her head and see it as something more. Something that people could benefit from and love! I knew that we needed to keep it simple and just be US! I knew the message of BELIEF needed to be front and center!
I also knew that we needed to figure out how the F we were gonna get to the city! We didn’t wanna drive and deal with that chaos! Did you know how expensive the train is?! I was shocked! I mean, we were more than willing to invest in this day, but we also wanted to have a good travel budget!! So my sister was searching flights and found one out of Boston for super cheap…but here was the problem! We weren’t finding out until the week before the actual time of our presentation! It could have been anywhere from 10am-4pm!
Sunday came and we packed up and headed to the Cape! We still didn’t have a travel plan set, but we had a bag full of WAEbands and the faith it was gonna work out exactly as it was supposed to! The first couple days of vaca were totally amazing! So many laughs and moments together…I was unwinding while also staying in a present and clear mindset for this presentation. All the while, we were still searching for the best travel options! We found out we needed to be in NYC at the Qurate headquarters by 10:30am!!
We were all sitting out on the back deck in Falmouth after a serious wiffle ball game and decided it was time to make the final plan. I mean, the meeting was in 2 days. Funny side note: I always thought I was a TYPE A person, because I’m pretty organized and I like things neat and tidy. My house is clean, I despise clutter and everything has a place. But other than that, I am so NOT type A! I wing it like 90% of the time! This trip included 😂
On the deck, we realized that there is a small airport in Worcester, MA. Never even knew that! We also learned that on Wednesday, August 14, we could fly to JFK for $49 a person, one way! Abundance bruh! Done.
Then we found a train out of Penn Station to Providence at 4pm to give us plenty of time to get back home. Penn station was only a few blocks from our meeting! Done.
With the help of our Papa-Uber, our dad, or we like to call him Poober 🤣, we had a ride at 2:30am to Worcester…which is kinda far from cape LOL but bonus…NO traffic at that time!! We also scheduled Kate’s hubby to pick us up in Providence which is only 20 minutes from home and he was bringing us back to the Cape! Done! See, everything falls into place when you just ALLOW! That’s another powerful lesson, guys!
We arrived at Worcester Airport, which is a little hidden gem for anyone living in MA!! It was so quiet and everyone was so nice! We hopped a flight to NYC which only took about 31 minutes! In fact, Kate and I watched one episode of Full House! It was the one where Stephanie is being peer pressure to smoke in the girls bathroom. Anyway, we landed in NYC and were so giddy. And also, starving.
We found a taxi and realized we had an hour long drive ahead of us to get to headquarters. We ate mints and took in the sights. New York traffic is CRAYYY! But I have always loved the city! Something about it! Our lovely taxi driver, who could also probably be a very successful race-car driver, dropped us off about a block from the building.
We hopped outta the cab, and broke out the google map. I felt like Joey on Friends when he’s in London and wants to stand in the map to figure out which way to go. Yeah. The walking map thing can be so confusing, but we FOUND IT! We also needed to find food and a bathroom like ASAP, but wanted to go in and figure out where to be so we weren’t lost!
Let me also share that we were both in leggings and flip flops and WAEbands of course! The info said to “dress your brand” so we knew if we showed up in anything other than our day to day uniform, it just wouldn’t be authentic!
We asked the bell hop which floor. He said 18. We hopped in the elevator. The doors opened. And there was a sign that said THE BIG FIND. We looked down a short hallway. There was a check in table and a gazillion peeps already in there. There were cameras and video and holy shit go back in the elevator we need to go pee first! Haha!
I’m not lying, we literally went right back in the elevator and down to find food and a potty, for the love of all that’s good! We knew our destination. And we still had plenty of time.
We found a little coffee shop. Grabbed an iced mocha and a yummy vegan sandwich. Guess what. No bathroom! So we found another place and hung there for a few to just regroup and freshen up. We had a few papers and docs to sign and I made sure we had the WAEbands to share. We were informed to bring at least 2 products. We had a couple WAEbands and a couple WAElites. And guys, I didn’t want them to get all smooshed in my bag, so we totally bought a shiny pink pencil box from Walmart and that’s what the WAEbands were in! I told you…no frills!
We walked back to the building. We survived off google maps 100% that day. We were ready. We got off the elevator and checked in. It was so amazing to see a room filled with so many different types of people all sharing their big ideas, their dreams, their love and passion! They gave us these really cool lanyards and we felt official. I was also getting so freakin nervous!
Everyone at HSN and QVC are legit the nicest people ever! Such great energy! And they did an amazing job at getting us relaxed and fired up to share. They said something really cool that will always stick with me…”we need you! In order for us to have successful networks, we need creators like you to bring your products to the world!” How cool is that!?
There were people from all over! Like the U.K., Cali, Texas, and one lady that traveled all the way from 49th street 😂😂 We met the kindest people as we all waited for our biz to be called. Such amazing ideas! Everyone was so supportive of one another! That’s what entrepreneurs do you guys! We’re like kindred spirits, we get each other!!
As we are waiting, this adorable host and a big ol’ camera crew start coming around and interviewing peeps. Insert cotton mouth and shaky knees. I looked at Kate and said, “I don’t think I need to be on tv right now😳.” We scooted off to the side and watched others share their product. Little did we know, that adorable little host came and scooped us out of our corner to do an on screen chat. She said we were looking all “namaste” in the corner and she wanted to learn about why everyone needs a WAEband! Can’t make this stuff up guys! Moral of the story: things happen the way they are supposed to happen!
The lights were so bright and I was def sweating like a hog, but we did it! I told the story, Kate crushed a demo of tying the band. We talked. We laughed. And that little interview totally helped us calm down and get centered for the presentation that could be happening any minute!
All the while, people are being called into the back rooms every few minutes! And like 6 businesses got what’s called a BIG TICKET! That was basically a guaranteed call back! We wanted that ticket! Bubbs and Chuck even texted me to bring that ticket home!
Every time someone came out with the ticket, everyone cheered! We were hugging strangers and congratulating them and truly so thrilled for them to have an additional opportunity to move forward! We were also told numerous times that if you don’t get the Big Ticket, you still have a chance to go forward. Insert deep breaths.
I think I put lip gloss on like 82 times as we were waiting. And then it was time. “WAEbands,” they called.
That’s US! Ahhhhhhhhhhhh!
I grabbed my pencil box and Kate and I went up the elevator. The lady with us gave us a few pointers and said, when the doors open, the panel is right there, so just begin!
The doors opened and there they were. I honestly can’t remember right now if there were 4 or 5 women, all I know is they were so nice and so FUN! One of them was tying WAEbands on herself the whole time! It was amazing! I don’t remember what I said or what Kate said, but I know we were authentic and truly ourselves! They commended us for our energy, they smiled the entire time and they thanked us for coming!! I wanted to hug them all but I couldn’t get around the table! You know me…I’m a hugger!
No Big Ticket. But honestly, we weren’t even bummed about it! We were SO grateful for those moments, and so excited for how connected it all felt!! We were on cloud 9! We checked out, left our lanyards and headed out to explore NYC and call the fam! We shared the whole experience, we were talking a million miles an hour and legit so honored, humbled and excited for such a cool experience!
We were so bummed that Mima wasn’t there with us, but I will also cherish that experience with my sister. We had the BEST DAY! We laughed all day! We explored Rockefeller Center, had lunch in Times Square, and the coolest part…entered St. Patrick’s cathedral just as a mass was beginning. We lit 3 candles and took a moment to express gratitude for this opportunity. Another lesson: gratitude is everything.
By 3 pm, we were toast. Hot. Tired. Crashing from the high of the morning and ready to get home to the fam. We hopped on the train, which if you have never taken the Acela from NYC to Prov, it was actually a lovely ride! Beautiful views that I caught in between dozing on and off and jumping every time I fell asleep!
We left NYC with a full heart, and arrived back in the Cape to our fam with an even fuller heart! We shared more ins and outs of the day, showered off the travel, and hit the pillow with more LOVE than ever!!
We finished out our vaca in such a great head space and here we are, headed into a new season, back to school, with SO much passion to help you Find Your WAE!!
Experiences like this come into our lives for reasons bigger than we may know in the moments…so if you’re on the brink of something epic…hold on tight, breathe it all in and soak it all up!! We will be sure to fill you in when we hear back from the peeps at the Big Find and no matter what happens, we are THANKFUL and totally excited to continue sharing the WAE LOVE!
Speaking of that…it’s 15% OFF sitewide RIGHT NOW, so go grab your bands and be a part of the WAETribe! Use coupon code summer and send us pics of you rockin your WAE!
Love you SO MUCH!!
QVC was always a household name growing up. Whenever my mom watched TV when we were little, it was either soap operas or QVC and HSN. And now I gotta tell ya, I love them, too! Not soap operas😂 but home shopping! Somethin about it.
So get this, when we started making WAEbands a few years back, my mom was ordering something online on QVC and saw an ad for this contest called The Big Find. She dug a little deeper.
She learned that QVC and HSN hosted a contest for inventors, dreamers, creators to apply and submit their ideas for the “next big thing.” She filled out an application for the WAEband immediately!
We didn’t hear anything back and kept on plugging, growing and learning. QVC was always there, though. On our vision boards. In our minds that something just felt right about it.
Another year passed and the contest came up again. Without really saying anything about it, my mom sent in another submission. Again, we didn’t hear anything back.
LOTS happened in the meantime. We started to put more of our focus and attention on attaining our studio and creating a place to help others find their WAE! We never stopped making or selling the WAEband, but it took a backseat for a short time so we could open the doors to a space of peace for so many people…including ourselves 😍
It’s crazy to think that next month we will have been open and thriving in our wellness studio for 1 YEAR…grateful is an understatement…
Once we were settled in, we all started to feel this pull again about the WAEband. That we hadn’t been giving it the attention it so deserves. That there are literally millions of people who will LOVE it, once they know it even exists!! That it’s such an amazing product unlike anything else out there that will bring color, comfort and inspiration to the peeps who wear it! I mean, our Tribe loves it, so we know it’s something special!
Fast forward to the end of June. My mom mentioned that The Big Find was coming around again. She wasn’t feeling it this time. She said she just wasn’t sure if it was the right fit at the right time. I said, “what the heck, send me the stuff and I’ll take a look at it.”
I kept putting “QVC submission” on my list of things to do. 3 weeks went by and I was sitting down to hop on a personal development training call. I had an hour before the call started, so I hopped online and scoped out the application.
I started filling out the info, and question after question, I was feeling SO energetically connected and excited to share our story of the WAEband. It was just pouring out! I attached our website info and some tying videos and clicked SUBMIT! I finished just in time to get on my call.
ERROR. Application not submitted.
Here were my thoughts in that moment…. “What in the actual 😳 are you talking about?! I just spend the last hour gushing so much emotion and love into this application and it didn’t even send. Ahhhh. Grrrrrr. I wanna cry. I wanna throw something. Maybe my mom was right. Maybe it’s not the right time.” End thought.
I texted my mom to tell her what happened and said “I wanna cry, but I’m getting on my call to get my mind right and then I’m going back on to do this again. It felt TOO good to not see what this could be.”
I got off my call. Fired up even more from all the good vibes! ➡️Insert shameless plug for the Power of I AM training with my brother bear Chris Downing! It was amazing!⬅️ At this point, it’s 10pm, I knew it was getting late but if I didn’t get on and submit right away, I may not have had the belief or fortitude to do it again. ~Little takeaway for you…TAKE action when you feel inspired because time will pass either way so why not make an impact!~
I started answering all the questions again. This time, I copied each long response and saved it in a word doc so I wouldn’t lose it again. Because failures are the best lessons, right?!
It took me about 45 minutes, but I finished it! I attached just 1 tying video, took a deep breath, said a prayer and clicked SUMBIT!
It sent. 💌 And on life went.
I truly didn’t think a ton about it after I sent the app in. I just released any expectation and kept on working! A couple weeks later, as I was sitting in the parking lot of the mechanic waiting to see if Nick’s car was ready, I decided to check my email. The service was really crappy but I tried anyway.
Ad. Ad. Sale. Ad. Sale. Coupon. CONGRATS🎉. Ad. Statement.
Congrats. You have been selected as a Finalist for the Big Find!
Holy CRAP! I clicked on the email and it said…NOTHING! It literally wouldn’t load because the service was so bad. It was the longest 16 minute drive ever until I could get back to service and actually read the email!
🎉Congratulations! You are a finalist. Please choose one of the cities below and join us for an in person presentation.🎉
Holy crap. Holy crap. This is real. It’s really happening. I FaceTimed my mom.
She was telling me what felt like the longest story ever and then I was like “hey, wanna hear something cool….
WE DID IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”
To be continued…
Teacher assignments came in the mail while we were on vacation down the cape. We pulled in the driveway and everyone dispersed. Bubbs and Chuck ran to the mailbox, excitedly hauling ass back ripping open envelopes. Braelyn popped on her chrome book to log in and see her very first HS schedule. She started texting friends to see what classes they shared. The kids asked me to text their friends moms to figure out who they had. All before we even unpacked the car.
It’s official. Back to school chaos has arrived at the Sbardella household. And I gotta be honest, I ain’t even ready.
I started to run down the eternal list of supplies we are about to buy. The new sneakers. The clothes that they won’t even wear until October because it still feels like summer for the first 6 weeks of school. The lunchboxes. The backpacks. The binders. So many binders. Then I started to panic thinking…Blake needs new cleats. The girls need new dance shoes. Probably new leotards, too. Did I even remember to sign them up for CCD?
Here I am, still shaking the sand out of my beach bag from an amazing vacation and I’m already feeling the tornado of stress trying to creep right up inside of me. Reality is setting in that our summer adventures and slow down are coming to a close and it’s near approaching that time where momma kicks it into high gear.
But you guys know me and you know I try really hard to never let the stress win…because what the F does that ever solve, anyway?! NADA. It just steals our JOY of the present moments!
So I took a deep breath in my moment of soul swallowing anxiety and trusted that these tiny little stressors don’t own my power anymore. They just don’t. And I left my packed suitcase in my room and sat on the couch with Nick and watched Jersey Shore for 2 hours. Because sometimes you need to just allow yourself to BE. Decompressing and being mindless is sometimes the best way to be MINDFUL and diminish the stress!
Let me repeat that. Doing something mindless can sometimes be the most mindful thing you can do for yourself. Taking a break is nothing to be ashamed of! Especially if it helps you move through a moment of stress and anxiety!
This world we are living in is constantly showing us our lack…Our constant need to improve…The pressure to do it all and have it all. But only if we feed into that!
So after my reality TV binge…I mean, it was really sweet to watch the Situation get married🤣👌🏻… I shifted to gratitude! You guys are gonna hear me say this so much that it actually may start to piss you off…but it’s a universal TRUTH! Gratitude is the game changer!
I rattled off in my head all the amazing moments of this summer…and how thankful I am to be able to cart my kids around and get them new school supplies! That’s nothing to agonize over! It’s a GIFT! For reals!
Every single aspect in our lives can be looked at one way or another. We can whine and moan. We can praise and give thanks. Whining and moaning is going to make our lives a lot more dim. Being grateful is going to make our lives a lot more light. It’s simple.
Now I’m not saying I don’t complain. HI! I’m a human. And I complained to begin this blog. And it didn’t make me feel any better about anything. In fact, it made me feel much worse…the more we complain, the more we find to complain about. The more we give gratitude, the more we have to be grateful for. #nuffsaid
Right now in this moment, I’m thankful for a kick ass vacation. I’m thankful for sore muscles from running 7 miles for ALS. I’m thankful for #2 pencils. I’m thankful for new adventures for my kids. I’m thankful to watch them grow! I’m thankful I get to be a part of all of it!
So there it if folks, chaos shifted to comfort. It’s all in how we approach the moments in life! It takes effort every day, but that effort will be so well worth it to not feel trapped inside the walls of anxiety every day!! I am always here to help you figure out how to do this! It’s kinda my job 😉😘🥰
Now, I gotta go check to make sure I signed my kids up got CCD and maybe order some new lunchboxes online!
I feel like a fortune cookie.
Confucius says: Life is short. Eat the cookie.
Taren says: Life is long. Eat the cookie. Do the burpees. Drink the water. Read the book. Do the meditation. Get the sleep. Lather. Rinse. Repeat.
I was laughing the other day as my mom, sister and I we’re chatting on our morning run. We always use that time to vent about our families #truth , mind meld together, laugh about ridiculous things, gain clarity…whatever we need in the moment. In our deep chat, I kept coming out with these profound one liners and my mom kept saying…”that’s a post, that would be a perfect post, you gotta share that one.”
I looked at her and was like, “apparently I speak POST now. Just call me Yoda. Or a fortune cookie.” 😂😂
And then the more I thought about it, the more I don’t even notice sometimes the things that come blurting out of my mouth. They are divinely guided FO SHO. But guys, here’s where it gets GOOOOD.
The stuff blurting out of my mouth could be VERY different if I didn’t make the conscious choice to change my mindset!
Get this…how many times in your life have you been faced with someone who has “no filter” and says whatever is on their mind without any hesitation? And doesn’t it seem like most of these moments, the information being blurted out isn’t always the best, right?!
“Oh, you cut your hair. WHY?” Or, “you would understand if you had a real job.” Or how about, “for someone who’s healthy, you sure have quite an appetite.”
These are just a few examples of things that aren’t thoughtfully spoken and usually come with a negative undertone. We have all been faced with this in life! It’s more common for these instances to occur than someone coming up and sharing with you a nugget of sheer love and quality and clarity.
Here’s WHY: the people blurting out their opinion without thinking anything about how it could affect someone else are the people who aren’t doing the internal work on themselves.
The people who give sound advice and help you see YOUR life more clearly are the ones who DO.
I may not have a scientific spreadsheet with factoids on how this is true, but I’m gonna tell ya, IT IS. Just trust me on this.
When you are connected to your GUS (God, Universe Spirit…whatever you wanna call your higher power) you are led with positivity and light. You see people through a lens of love. You make a choice to tap into that power and stay connected to it. You do the work and make the effort to shift yourself from a negative limiting mind to a positive, uplifting and abundant one. You show up for yourself which gives you a better opportunity to show up for others!!!
When you are disconnected from GUS and yourself, it’s so much easier to see the flaws in other people. It feels good to point them out in someone else, because it takes the burden off having to point the finger at yourself! When you’re disconnected, you are swimming in negativity without even being consciously aware of it…and in doing so, you naturally wanna have people swimming right in there with ya. So things just blurt right on out because in that moment, you aren’t thinking about anyone’s highest and best…especially not YOUR OWN.
It always comes back to this lesson you guys…when you work on becoming your best self, you will naturally want the same for everyone else you are surrounded with! It’s like that saying, “you are the product of the 5 people you spend the most time with.”
Think about that. Who are your 5? Is that the energy you desire for your life? The outlook you want to view this world from? The life you truly want to live?
I might speak fortune cookie now, but that’s because I am surrounded by so many people who do the same damn thing! The books I read, the people I work with, the job I do, the podcasts I listen to…all of it is grounded in positivity and light. So it’s only natural for things of that nature to come blurting out of my mouth!
Do you get it guys?! Every single person has a filter…some are just clearer than others. And if you’re tired of being someone who says things without thinking, then start being THOUGHTFUL with your own thoughts!!!!!!!!!!! Kinda like a conundrum but it’s TRUTH!!
You can speak fortune cookie too friends…just start surrounding yourself with people who like Chinese take out, too! 😉😉Your circle is everything! Your thoughts are everything! Your light is everything! It’s on you to show up as your best!
I grab my purse and toss it over my shoulder. I make sure the gate is closed so the dog doesn’t poop on the carpet. I step outside and panic for a second making sure I have my keys. It’s actually embarrassing how many times I have locked us out of the house.
My hands are full. Like, WHY am I always carrying 1002 things out the door. Most times, it’s a bottle of water, my superfood shake or a homemade iced coffee…or sometimes all 3! Because god forbid I leave the house without some form of hydration. I always carry water with me. Let’s face it, stopping at the store to get a drink is just whack.
I sit down and gracefully place all my drinks in their appropriate cup holders. I take a breath. We made it OUT THE DOOR! I’ve already won the day. Amiright?!
I make sure all the kids are sitting down and buckled up. It was an amazing moment the kids were all able to get themselves buckled on their own. That and putting on their own shoes. Game changing moments. Anywho. I slowly start rolling out of the driveway, and I hate to admit this, but before I even buckle my own seat belt, I put on lip gloss. Weird habit, I know but it happens every day!
Just as I’m safely buckled and tossing the car in drive, someone is already asking to turn up the radio or change the channel or wondering if we are gonna be late. [Speaking of late, I once always felt like I was 5 minutes late for LIFE…and then I realized saying that was creating more opportunity to be late. I now say this mantra: I am punctual and present and time is my friend! Guys. It works! Try it out!]
I calmly, sometimes calmly, manage to answer all their questions and get a song that everyone wants to jam to. And so begins a new day of mom taxi adventures!
I was always the mom who said, “I will never drive a mini van!” Well, I said that until I was pregnant with baby 3 and the realization of 2 kids in car seats and 1 in a booster hit me hard.
The day had come. Mini van time. And here we are, 8 years later, and I’m still rockin the mom mobile. With pride. And joy. I actually love it. And it makes the endless hours spent driving here and there a little more comfy and convenient.
So, each morning as I begin my taxi duties dropping 3 kids off a schools, I think back to my parents. They both worked full time out of the house, but still somehow managed to get us everywhere we needed to be. There are so many times I wonder how they did what they did. Full circle moments for sure!
And when my kiddos got bigger, they are now 14, 9 and 7, I felt totally overwhelmed on how to handle dance and karate and soccer and school and CCD and LIFE. There were many afternoons that called for me to literally be in 2 places at once…but I’m so thankful to have lots of great family and friends close by always willing to help. And there it was. That word. That feeling.
I realized I could complain my way through activities and keep saying how BUSY I was (sidenote, I loathe that word) or I could shift to gratitude.
If you take nothing else away from this, please take this and remember it daily…gratitude is the key to EVERYTHING!
I shifted my overwhelm of stress to an overwhelm of thanks…for having 3 healthy kids who are able to do lots of activities, go to school every day and spend time with their friends. Gratitude for having a career that allows me the freedom of TIME to be there for all of these moments. Gratitude for watching them do things they really love and enjoy.
All those hours spent in the car, they are hours of real life in this season we are in. They are moments for us to connect as a family, to talk about the day, to eat dinner out of ziplock baggies or even just sit in silence for a few minutes when needed. They are moments to sing out loud, take naps(jealous of that part) and just BE.
So tomorrow, when you make your way to your drivers seat, think about the opportunity you have on the open road in your mom taxi. The opportunity to LOVE and be present in the chaos! These moments may feel crazy, but they will surely be the ones we miss the most!
Much love, Ta xo
Badass workouts all ending with reiki and a guided meditation at the studio!
Speaking of Reiki: got a few private sessions available!
This Wednesday night, my amazing aunt Julie Clapp will be doing a reading in our studio!
We also have an awesome vison board class JUST FOR TEENS!
I am helping lots of peeps start their personal wellness journeys…you can be one of them!
And our NEW CLASS, Meaning-Filled Meditation is this Sunday at 6:30am…you get a few minutes of reiki and an intuitive reading from us for your highest and best!
Looking forward to connecting with you!
People are all like, I gotta find my purpose.
Listen, my purpose legit fell into my lap when I truly wasn’t even actively searching for it. But after a little time, I realized I really was working toward it my whole entire LIFE. I just didn’t know it!
Here’s the quick synopsis. I lived my whole childhood into adulthood making majority of my choices based on what someone else expected me to do. My family. My friends. Whatever relationships were prominent dictated how I lived my life. I dealt with crazy anxiety all during college and I now see so clearly that it was my soul trying SO hard to get me focused on MYSELF.
Then I became a mom at 22, graduated college with a degree in psychology and married at 23. And the cycle continued.
Though motherhood sparked a new feeling inside of me. Wasn’t sure what. But something shifted.
I started an at home daycare so I could be home with my kids. I went on countless interviews to get a job “in my field” but the thought of making only enough money to pay for daycare just didn’t feel right. Something felt off and I FINALLY listened.
Starting that at home daycare was a huge choice in that moment, but I didn’t realize the power. Stand by. I’m getting there.
So I popped out 2 more kids and kept on playing with tiny humans all day long and as my babies got bigger, I would start to have these thoughts: “when all my kids are in school, am I still gonna do this? Should I open up a daycare center? Uh no. Should I go stage houses for a living? That would be fun and I’d be really good at that. But I would only be able to work while the kids were all in school. Maybe I should go back and get my masters to start a private practice. But uhh I haven’t even paid off my student loans yet!”
Do you see. I was trying so hard to find my purpose by overthinking each scenario. Have you found yourself doing that?! Trying to control it all?! #guilty #recoveringcontrolfreak
So get this, I started a home workout program. I was deep in kids allll the timeeeee so I needed to find time for ME. Ding ding ding. I fell in love with this new experience. Not actually working out, I still don’t really love it, but I love the feeling I get from it! So come to find out, there was this whole coaching gig you could do where I could help people just like me. Well hey, that sounds awesome. Sign me up! All the while, WAE was being created behind the scenes with my mom and sister. All the shifts!
And now, 5 years later, I am helping people every day walk through similar experiences, and helping them wake up to it all a little faster than I did! I know that saying NO to a conventional 9-5 when Brae was a baby was a signal to me that I wasn’t here to go the safe route. I was here to explore what’s different and do things different. Which explains SO much about why I was always anxious, because in those moments I was just trying to be like everyone else! And our purpose is always rooted in being uniquely ourselves!
And there’s the story of how I found my purpose: the end. Hah! Every day actually still feels like a new beginning. So now that you get the gist, let’s focus on YOU!
Wherever you are right now is on purpose. Guiding you to your purpose. You might even be living it but not awake enough to notice!
Here’s the biggest lesson: your purpose comes screaming in when you’re ready to actually LIVE IT!
Here are 3 simple steps to getting there:
✨Meditate. Every day. You may want to scroll right past this now, but don’t and just trust me.
Meditation doesn’t mean you sit in stillness and quiet with celestial sun beams filtering all around you and the quiet bell of a singing bowl humming through your perfectly designed zen den.
Not. Even. Close. Meditation actually happens best for me while I’m washing dishes or in the shower. It’s something about the water that allows me to hear my INNER VOICE LOUDER THAN THE CHATTER!
Meditating first thing while you’re still sorta sleepy is the BEST because it’s easiest to tap into that space in between dreaming and awake…that’s where you can really LISTEN to that inner guidance. Kinda like our own personal Jiminy Crickets…except we let our SUB-conscious be our guide!
If you struggle like a mofo with this, we have guided meditations that help. Your mind WILL wander. Just allow and breathe into it.
✨Step 2 is start doing more things that make you happy and less things that make you pissed. Now you might be like YESSSSS I’m gonna go quit my job and sit on the beach all day with a frozen cocktail and not talk to anyone! While that sounds totally amazing, that’s not actually a way to LIVE. We are here having this human experience to do something impactful. A lot of people never take the time to tap into it. You already are by reading this! #winning
Listen, when you live in your purpose, you feel aligned, and while a vacation on the beach is always incredible, you won’t feel as desperate for the escape.
So, today, start thinking about what actually makes YOU happy. Not your spouse or significant other, not your kids, just YOU! The universe loooooveessss when you take care of yourself in those ways and honor yourself, so in those moments is where you will gain more clarity! An idea will pop in your head, something random will present itself to you that feels familiar, you might think your making shiz up in your head (I still think that’s sometimes) but that is the divine guidance we’re letting in to take the forefront! And once you start listening to that and taking action on it, more starts pouring in! Guys, that’s how I’m writing this entire blog. It’s literally just pouring out. It ain’t from me. It’s from my Jiminy Cricket!
✨The final step is to commit to something NEW for yourself. Maybe it’s an art class, a new gym. Could be a new way to eat, or going to a seminar that interests you! Even an online course…anything that is tangible and involves a commitment. For me, it was a 10 week workout program! It led me to a new awareness of health and wellness…when I am someone who would literally eat pizza every day, live off cookies and used to be a regular at the drive thru! It awakened me to total mind body wellness. Yes. I still eat cookies and pizza, but I’m so much more aware and literally guide people with their wellness on the daily! I never would have expected that, but it bloomed from COMMITMENT! Focusing on something just for you opens up so many new doors…and it’s so exciting to see where they lead!
Ok so you think you can handle those steps my peeps?! I believe in you and I know you can, because you are worthy and capable of doing things that light you up inside! It’s gonna feel wacky and uncomfortable at times, but it’s in the messes that the beauty grows and the purpose flows!
So much love for you,
Weekly happenings that YOU can be a part of:
~My Rise n’ Shine virtual accountability challenge begins this week—we will focus on beginning the day with self care and all around wellness!
~We have some AMAZING workout classes and meditations with Kate happening daily at the WAE studio!
~My mom and I have a few spots available for private reiki sessions…the perfect chance for you to restore and rejuvenate your energy! We also have Reiki certifications happening on Wednesday!
~We are now opening up enrollment for personal mentoring sessions! One hour sessions where we really dig into your blocks and highlight your strengths, and you leave each session with a call to action for your growth!
Hey, maybe something here could be one of your new steps 😉😉❤️
Truth be told, I tried blogging a few years ago. But I totally overthought it and it just didn’t feel authentic. This time, I just wanna keep it real. That’s my motto peeps. All the goodness is in the realness. So here’s a little backstory in case you’re new round here…
I’m Taren. 36. Not even lying, when I just wrote that I actually had to THINK about my age. Funny how that happens. Funny how lots of things happen…like marrying your high school boyfriend. Having your in-laws move across the street from your parents. Raising 3 amazing kids in the same schools we grew up in! #fullheartfosho
These days, I help run a family owned business with my mom and sister. You may have heard of it…Find Your WAE 😉What started with WAEbands has become a WAE BRAND- we offer so many varying opportunities for people to connect to themselves and really live in their LIGHT! Workouts. Workshops. Reiki. Meditation. Mentoring. WAEbands. All the things!
In addition to our WAE world, I am an online wellness coach and mentor! I help people from all over the country with their well-being…physical, mental, emotional and spiritual! I really like to call myself an intuitive mentor because it’s not about washboard abs or what you look like…it’s about what you FEEL like!
To do that, I help them use simple tools, like workouts and nutrition to really dig into who they are and who they’re meant to be! We all love to chow pizza and cookies and have cocktails so we keep it real 24/7! We call ourselves the Stronger Every Day crew, because that’s the goal…to learn and grow each day while lovin ourselves right where we are at!
I have totally fallen in love with helping women start their own businesses! Be it network marketing or any new venture, there’s no greater advice to be given than what your livin! We’re kindred spirits…so let’s grow together, shall we?!
I’m also working on a few other fun projects right now that I can’t wait to share with you guys soon! Honestly, these gigs have allowed me to foster a creative side that has always been a part of who I am! Like, I loooooove HGTV and decorating for holidays and paint nights and music and concerts and arts of all kinds! AND WRITING!!! So being able to be creative with social media, marketing and making WAEbands has helped me connect to that piece of me!
As adults it’s super easy to forget about those little things that make us who we are…would totally love to hear about yours, so make sure ya share with me when you’re done reading, k?!
Truly…It’s sort of surreal as I type these words. That I have a blog that you actually are interested in reading. That I have a platform to share my voice and passions in the hopes that you can do the same! Guys, I was always the wallflower…and truth is I’m really content with still being one! But when you open up the door to MORE, you can’t just shut it! It’s like a floodgate and the opportunities to share and grow just keep getting better and better! And if my words or vibes can help even 1 HUMAN take a step toward their own light, it’s worth every single minute! In fact, I’m completely humbled to have helped hundreds of people and call it my career. Huge gratitude! And a huge shift coming from someone who used to refer to herself as “just a stay at home mom running an at home daycare.”
I was never just a mom, just as you aren’t “JUST SOMEONE” right now either!
You have been divinely created. You’re a masterpiece. You’re unique and weird and beautiful and my goal with this blog is to help you be exactly who you’re supposed to be. To stand in your light and own your personal power. Can I get an amen on a Wednesday?!
I’m gonna share all sorts of stuff from mom life to mindset and marriage and wellness to how much I really despise kale! Random but it just tastes like dirt to me. #whoknew
Excited to connect to you guys in this new WAE…see what I did there?!
Oh, if you couldn’t tell, I love sarcasm as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone’s feelings and I also have a favorite pastime of quoting movies and having full text conversations using gifs!
Ok. There will be plenty of more time for me to share tid-bits about myself, but mostly, I’m sharing so that YOU can share, too! So start telling me your story! Can’t wait to hear it!