People are all like, I gotta find my purpose.
Listen, my purpose legit fell into my lap when I truly wasn’t even actively searching for it. But after a little time, I realized I really was working toward it my whole entire LIFE. I just didn’t know it!
Here’s the quick synopsis. I lived my whole childhood into adulthood making majority of my choices based on what someone else expected me to do. My family. My friends. Whatever relationships were prominent dictated how I lived my life. I dealt with crazy anxiety all during college and I now see so clearly that it was my soul trying SO hard to get me focused on MYSELF.
Then I became a mom at 22, graduated college with a degree in psychology and married at 23. And the cycle continued.
Though motherhood sparked a new feeling inside of me. Wasn’t sure what. But something shifted.
I started an at home daycare so I could be home with my kids. I went on countless interviews to get a job “in my field” but the thought of making only enough money to pay for daycare just didn’t feel right. Something felt off and I FINALLY listened.
Starting that at home daycare was a huge choice in that moment, but I didn’t realize the power. Stand by. I’m getting there.
So I popped out 2 more kids and kept on playing with tiny humans all day long and as my babies got bigger, I would start to have these thoughts: “when all my kids are in school, am I still gonna do this? Should I open up a daycare center? Uh no. Should I go stage houses for a living? That would be fun and I’d be really good at that. But I would only be able to work while the kids were all in school. Maybe I should go back and get my masters to start a private practice. But uhh I haven’t even paid off my student loans yet!”
Do you see. I was trying so hard to find my purpose by overthinking each scenario. Have you found yourself doing that?! Trying to control it all?! #guilty #recoveringcontrolfreak
So get this, I started a home workout program. I was deep in kids allll the timeeeee so I needed to find time for ME. Ding ding ding. I fell in love with this new experience. Not actually working out, I still don’t really love it, but I love the feeling I get from it! So come to find out, there was this whole coaching gig you could do where I could help people just like me. Well hey, that sounds awesome. Sign me up! All the while, WAE was being created behind the scenes with my mom and sister. All the shifts!
And now, 5 years later, I am helping people every day walk through similar experiences, and helping them wake up to it all a little faster than I did! I know that saying NO to a conventional 9-5 when Brae was a baby was a signal to me that I wasn’t here to go the safe route. I was here to explore what’s different and do things different. Which explains SO much about why I was always anxious, because in those moments I was just trying to be like everyone else! And our purpose is always rooted in being uniquely ourselves!
And there’s the story of how I found my purpose: the end. Hah! Every day actually still feels like a new beginning. So now that you get the gist, let’s focus on YOU!
Wherever you are right now is on purpose. Guiding you to your purpose. You might even be living it but not awake enough to notice!
Here’s the biggest lesson: your purpose comes screaming in when you’re ready to actually LIVE IT!
Here are 3 simple steps to getting there:
✨Meditate. Every day. You may want to scroll right past this now, but don’t and just trust me.
Meditation doesn’t mean you sit in stillness and quiet with celestial sun beams filtering all around you and the quiet bell of a singing bowl humming through your perfectly designed zen den.
Not. Even. Close. Meditation actually happens best for me while I’m washing dishes or in the shower. It’s something about the water that allows me to hear my INNER VOICE LOUDER THAN THE CHATTER!
Meditating first thing while you’re still sorta sleepy is the BEST because it’s easiest to tap into that space in between dreaming and awake…that’s where you can really LISTEN to that inner guidance. Kinda like our own personal Jiminy Crickets…except we let our SUB-conscious be our guide!
If you struggle like a mofo with this, we have guided meditations that help. Your mind WILL wander. Just allow and breathe into it.
✨Step 2 is start doing more things that make you happy and less things that make you pissed. Now you might be like YESSSSS I’m gonna go quit my job and sit on the beach all day with a frozen cocktail and not talk to anyone! While that sounds totally amazing, that’s not actually a way to LIVE. We are here having this human experience to do something impactful. A lot of people never take the time to tap into it. You already are by reading this! #winning
Listen, when you live in your purpose, you feel aligned, and while a vacation on the beach is always incredible, you won’t feel as desperate for the escape.
So, today, start thinking about what actually makes YOU happy. Not your spouse or significant other, not your kids, just YOU! The universe loooooveessss when you take care of yourself in those ways and honor yourself, so in those moments is where you will gain more clarity! An idea will pop in your head, something random will present itself to you that feels familiar, you might think your making shiz up in your head (I still think that’s sometimes) but that is the divine guidance we’re letting in to take the forefront! And once you start listening to that and taking action on it, more starts pouring in! Guys, that’s how I’m writing this entire blog. It’s literally just pouring out. It ain’t from me. It’s from my Jiminy Cricket!
✨The final step is to commit to something NEW for yourself. Maybe it’s an art class, a new gym. Could be a new way to eat, or going to a seminar that interests you! Even an online course…anything that is tangible and involves a commitment. For me, it was a 10 week workout program! It led me to a new awareness of health and wellness…when I am someone who would literally eat pizza every day, live off cookies and used to be a regular at the drive thru! It awakened me to total mind body wellness. Yes. I still eat cookies and pizza, but I’m so much more aware and literally guide people with their wellness on the daily! I never would have expected that, but it bloomed from COMMITMENT! Focusing on something just for you opens up so many new doors…and it’s so exciting to see where they lead!
Ok so you think you can handle those steps my peeps?! I believe in you and I know you can, because you are worthy and capable of doing things that light you up inside! It’s gonna feel wacky and uncomfortable at times, but it’s in the messes that the beauty grows and the purpose flows!
So much love for you,
Weekly happenings that YOU can be a part of:
~My Rise n’ Shine virtual accountability challenge begins this week—we will focus on beginning the day with self care and all around wellness!
~We have some AMAZING workout classes and meditations with Kate happening daily at the WAE studio!
~My mom and I have a few spots available for private reiki sessions…the perfect chance for you to restore and rejuvenate your energy! We also have Reiki certifications happening on Wednesday!
~We are now opening up enrollment for personal mentoring sessions! One hour sessions where we really dig into your blocks and highlight your strengths, and you leave each session with a call to action for your growth!
Hey, maybe something here could be one of your new steps 😉😉❤️